Eighty-one percent of parents believe teen dating violence is not an issue or admit they don’t know if it’s an issue.Every relationship is different and teen relationships, which are often fraught with drama and high emotion, can be dynamic and intense.Teens who perpetrate dating violence tend to carry these patterns of violence into their future relationships as well.Many adults understand that communicating with your partner, managing uncomfortable emotions like anger and jealousy, and treating others with respect are a few ways to keep relationships healthy and non-violent.
This abuse begins early, often before the age of eighteen or in early adulthood, as more than half of women (69.5%) and men (53.6%) who have been physically or sexually abused, or stalked by a dating partner, first experienced abuse between the ages of 11-24.
I spent months rereading my journals from high school, reliving every cruel word, every violation, every moment of self-hatred brought on by someone I thought loved me.
And this made me mad as hell—at the boy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, at myself for putting up with so much. When I was 16, the king of our drama department fell in love with me. What at first seemed like a dream whirlwind romance soon turned into a living nightmare.
Smiling Cupids and roses and teddy bears are so much easier to put on cards than girls with battered hearts, bloody lips, and crumbling self-esteem. This violence could be physical, but it’s often emotional abuse that has the longest lasting effects, and it’s usually harder to spot.
There aren’t conversation hearts that say things like . If we’re going to have a month dedicated to love, then let’s be real about it. Being in love screws with your head, and when you’re in an abusive relationship, it becomes all too easy to mistake controlling behavior or manipulation for love.